How to find "the one" 🏹 💕

As with any endeavor in life, intentionality is the heart and soul of finding the right partner. Take some time to first figure out what you want out of life and why you are seeking a romantic partner. Your answers to these questions are likely to change over time so check in with yourself every so often to see where you’re at.

1. Let’s start with some introspection; ask yourself the following questions:

• What are your personal values?

• What are your priorities?

• What are you good at?

• What do you need to work on?

• What do you want to achieve during your lifetime?

• What does your ideal lifestyle look like?

2. Next, imagine the type of person you would like to welcome into your life. Focus on qualities that speak to a person’s character and transcend the superficial. For example they are kind and have integrity versus they earn $300K a year and are a professional athlete. These are exponentially more important in relationship satisfaction and compatibility, especially in the long-term.

• What qualities are important in a partner?

• How do you feel when you're with your ideal partner?

• What qualities are unacceptable in a partner?

• What type of relationship are you looking for (casual, monogamous, open, etc.)?

3. Go with the flow. Good things (and people) show up when we’re busy enjoying ourselves. Our culture likes to perpetuate the myth that once we find out other half we will live happily ever after without a worry in the world. Reminding yourself that you are already complete and that being in a relationship will not magically solve all your problems can help ease the pressure. Enjoy the time you have with yourself, spend time with friends, find hobbies you love, and trust that when the timing is right. “What you seek is seeking you”.